|Posted by [email protected] on June 24, 2017 at 6:20 AM||comments (0)|
No matter how you feel:
Get up or Back up
Dress up -at least once a week
Show up- even if you don't want to
and most important: No matter what- Never GIVE UP
|Posted by [email protected] on May 9, 2017 at 6:45 AM||comments (0)|
Today is Teacher Appreciation day! I have been student teaching this year in many different school systems and have learned so much not only in how to educate students but I've learned how challenged children are in our society and communities on so many levels. This year has been a eye-opening experience. Bullies bully for a reason. They need to trust that in listening to them, you are not out to punish, but to help them develop as people and maybe help with those underlying issues they face daily. So, if you know someone who's a great teacher, tell them thank you how they make a positive difference to children, everyday.
|Posted by [email protected] on May 5, 2017 at 8:50 AM||comments (0)|
I loved how this couple handled cyberbullying on https://twitter.com/bookertb0303" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Twitter.
Here are some of my tips on how to handle cyberbullying:
If you would like me to come and give a presentation about bullying to your organization or classroom, contact me at: [email protected]
|Posted by [email protected] on April 22, 2017 at 9:10 PM||comments (0)|
Today I raised $138.55 for Children's Miracle Network so I can compete at Miss New York on Staten Island this Memorial Day weekend.
Special shout out to mom, dad, sister Katie and all of Saratoga and Mohawk Valley communties that helped this day possible.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 19, 2017 at 8:35 AM||comments (0)|
The common mistake that bullies make is assuming that because someone is nice that he or she is weak. Those traits have nothing to do with each other. In fact, it takes considerable strength and character to be a good person.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 16, 2017 at 7:50 AM||comments (0)|
Wanting everyone to have a Happy and Peaceful Easter today!
|Posted by [email protected] on April 14, 2017 at 7:45 AM||comments (0)|
Beware: the playground bullies of your past have found their way onto the Internet. How many of us have posted on an online community only to notice an aggressive poster attempting to start a war of words between users? Not only do the insulting posts disrupt conversation, it doesn’t take a degree in psychology to know that they can be annoying and offensive. The world of flaming and trolling has gained more and more attention in the last few years as the internet has become a bigger part of our lives. Psychologists theorize that there are motives behind these faceless bullies.
Flaming is an aggressive or antagonistic interaction between Internet users, frequently on message boards, blogs, game servers and in chat rooms, and exist mainly to act with hostility and insult other posters. Deliberate flamers are cyber-bullies who enjoy getting a rise out of others by focusing on heated issues like politics and religion, or by personally attacking others. Their main goal is to disrupt the flow of conversation between others and provoke conversation instead about the flame. Trolls are of a similar vein and intentionally practice flaming by writing obvious, insulting, and often off-topic remarks to start a “flame war.” While many people have encountered flaming and trolls, most people are unaware of their motives. What causes an Internet user to want to provoke another user? Who wants to embroil themselves in the middle of an argument?
Examples of flaming:
Flaming on YouTube," one of the major findings was that by communicating over the Internet, flamers experience de-individualization and have less of an awareness of people's feelings than they would in a face-to-face interaction.
Social Media sites- Facebook, Instragram etc
An unsuspecting victim may not immediately recognize flaming. Many flamers wait until they get a person to engage in conversation before they attack. Some of them come right out with sweltering e-abuse, but other flamers are calm and calculating at first. It is easier to spot an angry and impulsive flame attempt because it is transparent. Any e-mail, message, or comment that has senseless profanity and insults in it is most likely a flame. Not all flames are that simple, however. A talented flamer can break a person’s heart with the use of non-profane words. The best way to tell if one is being flamed is to evaluate the internal feelings that arise after reading the text.
You need to know you are not alone if you have struggles with "Flaming". More than 60 percent of schoolchildren are bullied, and some of it is through electronic means. Over 25 percent of teens have received hurtful text messages and emails.
Flaming is a very real problem that must be covered by parents to their children. Please see a parent, adult you trust, a older brother or sister, Aunt or Uncle, religion role model a school counselor or feel free to reach out to me at: [email protected]
|Posted by [email protected] on April 12, 2017 at 7:30 AM||comments (0)|
Things bullies don't want you to know:
They’re desperately unhappy
They’re envious of their victims
They’re not strong
They don’t want to be bullied
Bullying is part of a social problem. There is no winner when bullying is used strategically or as a coping mechanism. I strongly believe that communicating to those who suffer in a contemporary and realistic manner is essential and a solution.
If you would like me to present my program to your organization or company contact me at: [email protected]
|Posted by [email protected] on April 10, 2017 at 11:20 AM||comments (0)|
4 things to tell yourself today:
I am beautiful
I can find peace
I will survive
|Posted by [email protected] on March 27, 2017 at 7:15 AM||comments (0)|
Some how, someway, it’s become a business for this digital age monitoring for the young, paid by the not so digitally aware generation (parents) just trying to be ahead of the digital game.
So, how can that single mom or parents, who don’t make great money, protect their child from cyber-bullying? What’s the answer?
For the parent:
• Have someone go to the phone randomly (like you) and look at the apps
• Have someone like a older teen monitor
• Talk to the child about the signs of cyber-bullying and let a parent or adult view the content every 2-4 months in a general conversation over dinner. No cells on the table time!
• Have me, Miss Mohawk Valley, go and speak, inspire, support and educate someone who’s been cyber-bullied and be a part of their life and make a difference.
• Educating parents on new digital monitor programs. The prices and ranges vary all over the board. Basically, the more you can pay, the more access you have. But it’s easily available.
• Talk to your local Congressman and Senate about programs are being delevoped from Big business companies, to offer a minimal monitoring app for parents for free if a device is being used by a child under the age of 16.
For the child:
• Establish rules about appropriate use of computers, cell phones, and other technology. For example, be clear about what sites they can visit and what they are permitted to do when they’re online. Show them how to be safe online.
• Help them be smart about what they post or say. Tell them not to share anything that could hurt or embarrass themselves or others. Once something is posted, it is out of their control whether someone else will forward it. You are very good and talking about this!!!
• Encourage kids to think about who they want to see the information and pictures they post online. Should complete strangers see it? Real friends only? Friends of friends? Think about how people who aren’t friends could use it. Example: photoshoots getting out of hand…or is this something you’d show your mom or dad?
• Tell kids to keep their passwords safe and not share them with friends. Sharing passwords can compromise their control over their online identities and activities. Kids share passwords so easily today!
• Don’t respond or retaliate when it happens. Show a trusted family member or school teacher in private
• Most apps you have to invite or ask to join the group or “club” . with that, most have a feature that you can block or simply end the account, start another account and be more careful. Live and learn.
If you would like to talk to me one on one or come and speak to your group or school, please email be at: [email protected]