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Teacher's make a difference

Posted by [email protected] on May 9, 2017 at 6:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Today is Teacher Appreciation day! I have been student teaching this year in many different school systems and have learned so much not only in how to educate students but I've learned how challenged children are in our society and communities on so many levels. This year has been a eye-opening experience. Bullies bully for a reason. They need to trust that in listening to them, you are not out to punish, but to help them develop as people and maybe help with those underlying issues they face daily.  So, if you know someone who's a great teacher, tell them thank you how they make a positive difference to children, everyday.


Tips for Cyberbullying

Posted by [email protected] on May 5, 2017 at 8:50 AM Comments comments (0)

cbsnews.com/news/high-school-girls-response-to-body-shamers-online-goes-viral/

I loved how this couple handled cyberbullying on https://twitter.com/bookertb0303" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Twitter. 

Here are some of my tips on how to handle cyberbullying:


  • People are less likely to bother you and more likely to listen to you if you walk, sit, and act with awareness, calm, respect, and confidence. Projecting a positive, assertive attitude means holding your head high, keeping your back straight, walking briskly, looking around, and having a peaceful face and body. Staying aware also helps you to notice so that you can deal with it sooner rather than later.
  • The best self-defense tactic is called “target denial,” which means “don’t be there.” Leaving an unsafe situation is often the wisest and most effective solution for getting away from trouble.
  • Boundaries can also be important in dealing with aggressive or threatening behavior in situations where it is not possible to just leave. Waiting and wishing for a safety problem to go away on its own usually just gives time for the problem to get bigger. Of course, if this is happening, try to take action to stop this behavior right away by saying loudly, “Stop!”  Don't be afraid to make a scene. 
  • Remember to leave ASAP and go to an adult to report what happened.  Details are the freshest within 30 minutes of a event.
  • Use Physical Self-Defense as a Last Resort:  Bullying problems are often not as clear-cut as other personal safety issues. Families have different rules about where they draw the line. Also, many schools will suspend all students involved in a fight, so parents have to be prepared for this consequence. Learning physical self defense helps most kids become more confident, even if they never have to use these skills in a real-life situation. Just being more confident helps kids to avoid being chosen as a victim most of the time. Enroll in a local Taekwondo class if you are able.  While earning my black belt in Taekwondo, I was able to learn ways to defent myself which promoted amazing self esteem within myself. 


If you would like me to come and give a presentation about bullying to your organization or classroom, contact me at:  [email protected]


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Flaming- cyberbullying

Posted by [email protected] on April 14, 2017 at 7:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Beware: the playground bullies of your past have found their way onto the Internet. How many of us have posted on an online community only to notice an aggressive poster attempting to start a war of words between users? Not only do the insulting posts disrupt conversation, it doesn’t take a degree in psychology to know that they can be annoying and offensive. The world of flaming and trolling has gained more and more attention in the last few years as the internet has become a bigger part of our lives. Psychologists theorize that there are motives behind these faceless bullies.

 

Flaming is an aggressive or antagonistic interaction between Internet users, frequently on message boards, blogs, game servers and in chat rooms, and exist mainly to act with hostility and insult other posters. Deliberate flamers are cyber-bullies who enjoy getting a rise out of others by focusing on heated issues like politics and religion, or by personally attacking others. Their main goal is to disrupt the flow of conversation between others and provoke conversation instead about the flame. Trolls are of a similar vein and intentionally practice flaming by writing obvious, insulting, and often off-topic remarks to start a “flame war.” While many people have encountered flaming and trolls, most people are unaware of their motives. What causes an Internet user to want to provoke another user? Who wants to embroil themselves in the middle of an argument?

Examples of flaming:

Flaming on YouTube," one of the major findings was that by communicating over the Internet, flamers experience de-individualization and have less of an awareness of people's feelings than they would in a face-to-face interaction.

Chatrooms 

Instant messaging

Forums

Social Media sites- Facebook, Instragram etc

How to Recognize Flaming

An unsuspecting victim may not immediately recognize flaming. Many flamers wait until they get a person to engage in conversation before they attack. Some of them come right out with sweltering e-abuse, but other flamers are calm and calculating at first. It is easier to spot an angry and impulsive flame attempt because it is transparent. Any e-mail, message, or comment that has senseless profanity and insults in it is most likely a flame. Not all flames are that simple, however. A talented flamer can break a person’s heart with the use of non-profane words. The best way to tell if one is being flamed is to evaluate the internal feelings that arise after reading the text.

Getting help

You need to know you are not alone if you have struggles with "Flaming". More than 60 percent of schoolchildren are bullied, and some of it is through electronic means. Over 25 percent of teens have received hurtful text messages and emails.

Flaming is a very real problem that must be covered by parents to their children. Please see a parent, adult you trust, a older brother or sister, Aunt or Uncle, religion role model a school counselor or feel free to reach out to me at: [email protected]




Things Bullies don't want you to know

Posted by [email protected] on April 12, 2017 at 7:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Things bullies don't want you to know:

They’re desperately unhappy

They’re envious of their victims

They’re not strong

They don’t want to be bullied

Bullying is part of a social problem. There is no winner when bullying is used strategically or as a coping mechanism. I strongly believe that communicating to those who suffer in a contemporary and realistic manner is essential and a solution.

If you would like me to present my program to your organization or company contact me at: [email protected]

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Cyber-bullying- A everyday teen issue

Posted by [email protected] on March 27, 2017 at 7:15 AM Comments comments (0)



Some how, someway, it’s become a business for this digital age monitoring for the young, paid by the not so digitally aware generation (parents) just trying to be ahead of the digital game.

So, how can that single mom or parents, who don’t make great money, protect their child from cyber-bullying? What’s the answer?

 

 For the parent:

• Have someone go to the phone randomly (like you) and look at the apps

• Have someone like a older teen monitor

• Talk to the child about the signs of cyber-bullying and let a parent or adult view the content every 2-4 months in a general conversation over dinner. No cells on the table time!

• Have me, Miss Mohawk Valley,  go and speak, inspire, support and educate someone who’s been cyber-bullied and be a part of their life and make a difference.

• Educating parents on new digital monitor programs. The prices and ranges vary all over the board. Basically, the more you can pay, the more access you have. But it’s easily available.

• Talk to your local Congressman and Senate about programs are being delevoped from Big business companies, to offer a minimal monitoring app for parents for free if a device is being used by a child under the age of 16.

 

 

For the child:

 

• Establish rules about appropriate use of computers, cell phones, and other technology. For example, be clear about what sites they can visit and what they are permitted to do when they’re online. Show them how to be safe online.

• Help them be smart about what they post or say. Tell them not to share anything that could hurt or embarrass themselves or others. Once something is posted, it is out of their control whether someone else will forward it. You are very good and talking about this!!!

• Encourage kids to think about who they want to see the information and pictures they post online. Should complete strangers see it? Real friends only? Friends of friends? Think about how people who aren’t friends could use it. Example: photoshoots getting out of hand…or is this something you’d show your mom or dad?

• Tell kids to keep their passwords safe and not share them with friends. Sharing passwords can compromise their control over their online identities and activities. Kids share passwords so easily today!

• Don’t respond or retaliate when it happens. Show a trusted family member or school teacher in private

• Most apps you have to invite or ask to join the group or “club” . with that, most have a feature that you can block or simply end the account, start another account and be more careful. Live and learn.


If you would like to talk to me one on one or come and speak to your group or school, please email be at: [email protected]


Madison

 


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